The topic of men

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Yesterday I met up with my male friend, Danny, that I have been friends with since high school. When he’s in town we often get together and catch up. We are both aware of each other’s dating lives and the ups and downs those have caused. 

We got on the topic of men. And my dating life, like we often do. It’s often complicated to be completely honest and straight forward to people in person. I can be to many people but it has to be the right person, right environment and right situation of course.  

Anyway, in today’s world people (specifically) men don’t acknowledge their emotions. They don’t validate them, and they don’t work through them. It’s terrible. And on top of that, they don’t communicate their emotions in respectful way. Okay. This isn’t just men, many woman are this way too — I’m just upset at men because that’s all I find it with. 

I find it so frustrating that a man can be putting effort in and then because something tough comes up, some challenges them, things don’t go as planned, etc, then run. EVEN THOUGH “they think you are amazing” and “you deserve the best”. Yea... bullshit. I mean— yes I am amazing and I deserve the best, but why can’t they just be a stand up guy and actually treat a woman right? Do men really NOT know how to treat a woman right? That seems ridiculous. Is communication REALLY that tough? 

Or my favorite... I’m not looking for anything serious? Ohhhh okay. So you want to be alone forever? And don’t want to grow up? Definitely could have told me that before we even started chit chatting. 

It just comes down to... men don’t know how to be men anymore. How to treat a woman right. How to communicate with people. How to acknowledge and deal with their emotions. I have learned to do all of these things and I feel like I have worked really hard at becoming the person I am today and I usually get the short end of the stick and that’s frustrating. Arg. 


xoxo

breezy

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